“The girls can’t name the University of Miami quarterback, because I can’t name him,” Ellen Bakalian says. “I don’t follow sports. I don’t watch Miami games. I did for a little while afterward, but sports aren’t my passion. I watched because Jeff did.”
Monday, she woke up the girls, 12 and 10, in their suburban New Jersey home and said the man who killed their father was dead. They put American flags in the yard. They watched some news on television before school.
But as the shock faded, as the celebration outside the White House worked its way off television, she sat in her New Jersey home and felt her life of nevers hadn’t changed at all.
She’d still never see her husband again. She’d still never watch him with her children again.
In case anyone needed a reminder as to why we are STILL fighting this war and will be for quite some time.